When do I actually talk business in the DMs?


There's a moment in every conversation where you either earn the right to talk business... or you don't.

For me, that moment comes down to permission.

I need to see one of two signals:

1) The prospect shares a challenge I'm equipped to solve

2) They acknowledge something related to my area of expertise in a positive way.

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Without that, I hold back.

But most prospects won't arrive at that point without a little guidance.

So once a conversation is underway, I use a simple binary question, a "this or that" to steer things gently.

Here is an example of "permission to pivot" from a prospect:

They trusted me enough to be honest, and that honesty gave me the opening.

There are many outreach philosophies out there.

Mine is rooted in one principle: trust comes before the pitch.


To your success,
Stef

Stef Curcio

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